Tuesday, April 10, 2012

He who finds a friend...

What does friendship really look like? What are we really looking for in a friend?

 I watched my mom fall apart after losing an 18 year, 18 YEAR! friendship in a matter of a one evenings phone call. Since witnessing that and being there for my mom through the pain of losing that piece of her life- I have been skeptical of real friendship. I want to believe in real, genuine, God given friendship. I want it so bad, but just don't know if it really exists in this day and age. If we can really have a true friend all the days of our lives. We as a whole are too self absorbed to truly be a friend to someone else- myself included.

This was written in 1916 and can be found in the Farmers Almanac. This stirs my soul and makes me cry. I WANT this in my life and I want to be this in someone else's life. THIS is what God created friendship for. And I pray, somehow,one day we all find it in our lifetime.

The Friend

( Originally Published 1916 )

A FRIEND is a person who is "for you," always, under any suspicions. He wants nothing from you, except that you be yourself.
He never investigates you.
When charges are made against you, he does not ask proof. He asks the accuser to clear out.
He likes you just as you are. He does not want to alter you.
Whatever kind of coat you are wearing suits him. Whether you have on a dress suit or a hickory shirt with no collar, he thinks it's fine.
He likes your moods, and enjoys your pessimism as much as your optimism.
He likes your success. And your failure endears you to him the more.
He is better than a lover because he is never jealous.

He is the one being with whom you can feel SAFE. With him you can utter your heart, its badness and its goodness. You don't have to be careful.
In his presence you can be indiscreet; which means you can rest.
There are many faithful wives and husbands; there are few faithful friends.
Friendship is the most admirable, amazing, and rare article among human beings.
Anybody may stand by you when you are right; a friend stands by you even when you are wrong.
The highest known form of friendship is that of the dog to his master. You are in luck if you can find one man or one woman on earth who has that kind of affection for you and fidelity to you.
Like the shade of a great tree in the noonday heat, is a friend.
Like the home port, with your country's flag flying, after long journeys, is a friend.
A friend is an impregnable citadel of refuge in the strife of existence.
It is he that keeps alive your faith in human nature, that makes you believe it is a good universe.
He is the antidote to despair, the elixir of hope, the tonic for depression, the medicine to cure suicide.
When you are vigorous and spirited you like to take your pleasures with him; when you are in trouble you want to tell him; when you are sick you want to see him ; when you are dying you want him near.
You give to him without reluctance and borrow from him without embarrassment.
If you can live fifty years and find one absolute friend you are fortunate. For of the thousands of human creatures that crawl the earth, few are such stuff as friends are made of.

Wow. Friendship is important! With all of that being said, if I can't/don't find that friend roaming this earth- Im trusting Jesus to be that friend to me. And He will if I will allow Him. Buts its always nice to have that person in flesh.

Work on yourself to be the friend that you long for in your life. Be a friend to yourself. :) 
Friendship is important- we were created for it.

My Best Friend:) He's been here for 6 years and has seen me at my worse. This is Hulk.

1 comment:

  1. WOW!!!! Thank you for sharing this!!! I loved the part that says "With him you can utter your heart, its badness and its goodness. You don't have to be careful." I am so glad you found that and shared. :-)